In my many, many years of adulting (ok, not many, but I am quick study) one of things I have learned is required for maintaining your sanity and well-being is taking time for yourself. Whether it’s an hour, an evening, a weekend, whatever, just making sure that for a moment you are doing exactly what you want to be doing and no stupid responsibilities can find you there. The irony is that this moment is also the most likely to fall by the wayside what with work, chores, and the demands of the universe all competing for your time and attention.
It is very easy for me to go way too long without one of those moments. Since I am a scheduler who thrives in busy times and loves taking on new challenges, the “take time for yourself” block of time tends to get pushed out by other blocks, the blocks that are put there by someone else rather than me. I don’t begrudge those blocks, as they give me time with people I love, an organized life and a steady paycheck, but it is very easy to become overwhelmed and forget that even the most hectic days have 24 hours (minus those silly sleeping hours we seem to need to survive and not kill each other) and taking just one or two of them for yourself isn’t a crime.
I am very lucky in that I have a partner who can sense when I am getting stressed and forces me (often against my will) to take a breath and step away. For example, last Saturday when he was out all day working and I was running around with errands and photoshoots and general craziness, T. got home, saw that I was a woman on the verge of being on the verge of a nervous breakdown and demanded I get gussied up and that we go out for a date night. Yes, we were exhausted, yes, we had things to do, but all of those arguments seemed to fade away over that second glass of wine and by the time we got home I was a much calmer and happier person.
So whatever your zen may be (clearly mine is drinking…kidding, we ate too), make sure you find a time soon and unplug. The world isn’t going anywhere, believe me, and it can spare you for just a moment.